I know it’s quite weird, but I have seen life from a very sad angle so far. My mom is one kind of tom-boy. She beats up my dad for the slightest reason. My dad has cared for us and our every need until he lost his job 3 years ago. He has tried to get a job ever since all to no avail. Since that time my mom changed into something else and gets bitter and angry and violent with my dad for any little thing. Each time I come back on holiday I see bruises on my dad. He never wants to talk about it or even ask for help. I don’t know what to do. I am really scared that I might come home one day and find my dad’s corpse. Lately he is having blood pressure issues. What can I do?
As a child, witnessing domestic violence can be traumatic and leave a lasting impact. It is even more distressing when the abuser is a parent, and the victim is the other parent. This is a situation that many children find themselves in, and it can be difficult to know what to do.
One of the most challenging aspects of this situation is that the man can’t ask for help. Men believe that a man’s role is to protect and provide for his family. He sees asking for help as a sign of weakness and would rather suffer in silence than admit that he is a victim of domestic violence. This is a common mindset among many men who are victims of abuse. They fear being judged, ashamed, and emasculated if they speak out about their experiences.
So I would advise in the same direction as @Tayhland .
Get evidence of what is going, then reach out to family members for assistance, if that fails then you can escalate to the authorities. Don’t let that man die for nothing.
A man who has cared for his family all over the years, and then for no fault of his, he is no longer able to provide. He should be respected, supported and loved through the situation. Many women don’t understand this.
It is always about them, nothing else matters.
So, do something now. You can even seek assistance with a human rights group or NGO.
Good luck