I really don’t know about other women, but my recent experience has really put me in a state of mind where i can hardly trust any woman, anybody again.
I met this girl back in the University. we were good, everything was going fine even years after our graduation. I decided i was going to settle down with her.
She readily accepted, to my greatest delight. But i was to regret ever meeting her not long after, when 3 weeks to our supposed wedding, i caught her red handed with my best friend, who would have been my best man!
I loved this girl deeply, she has been begging, and sending her friends to plead on her behalf. But i doubt if i would ever trust her again even if i forgave her. I don’t know how to think of trusting anything called a woman, anymore.
With her disturbances, my close friends and even close church people have begun to plead for her. what should i do?
Call it off immediately even your friendship as well
Call it off immediately even your friendship as well
Finding out that your significant other has betrayed your trust is one of the most painful experiences one can go through. And when that betrayal comes from someone you considered a close friend, the hurt and betrayal are magnified. This is the situation I found myself in just three weeks before my wedding, when I caught my girlfriend with my friend. It left me questioning whether I should continue the relationship or not.
It all started when I decided to surprise my fiancée at her apartment one evening. I had been busy with wedding preparations and hadn’t seen her for a few days, so I thought it would be a nice gesture to bring her some flowers and take her out for dinner. But as I entered her apartment, I heard voices coming from the bedroom. My heart sank as I recognized one of the voices to be my best friend’s. I quietly walked towards the bedroom and what I saw shattered me. My fiancée and my best friend were in bed together, their clothes scattered on the floor. I stood there in disbelief, unable to comprehend what was happening.
My fiancée tried to explain and apologize, but I was too shocked and hurt to listen. My best friend, on the other hand, didn’t even have the decency to feel remorseful. He simply shrugged and said, ‘It’s not like you guys were married yet.’ These words cut deep and made me question everything I thought I knew about friendship and loyalty. I left the apartment without saying a word and spent the rest of the night walking aimlessly, trying to process what had just happened.
The next day, my fiancée came to my place, begging for forgiveness and promising that it was a one-time mistake. She claimed that she was under a lot of stress from the wedding preparations and that my absence and her friend’s presence had led to this moment of weakness. She swore that she loved me and that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. But how could I trust her again after this? How could I trust my best friend, who had been like a brother to me, after he had betrayed me in the worst possible way?
For the next few days, I was torn between my feelings for my fiancée and my anger towards my friend. I couldn’t imagine going through with the wedding, knowing that they had both betrayed me. But at the same time, I couldn’t let go of the love and memories I had shared with my fiancée. I sought advice from my family and close friends, and while some suggested ending the relationship, others urged me to give it a chance and forgive.
In the end, I decided to postpone the wedding and take some time away from my fiancée and friend to clear my head. During this time, I realized that I couldn’t continue the relationship without trust. And the fact that both of them had betrayed me showed a lack of respect and loyalty. I also realized that I deserved better than someone who could easily cheat on me and a friend who could so easily betray me.
In the end, I made the difficult decision to end the relationship and cut ties with my former best friend. It was a painful experience, but I knew it was the right thing to do for my own well-being. I couldn’t continue a relationship built on lies and deceit. And while it may have been three weeks before the wedding, I knew that it was better to end things now than to go through with a marriage based on a shaky foundation.
Finding out that your partner has cheated on you is a devastating experience. It becomes even more complicated when it involves a close friend. In such a situation, it is important to take a step back and evaluate the relationship. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and once that trust is broken, it becomes difficult to rebuild it. As painful as it may be, sometimes the best decision is to let go and move on.